How I Learned There’s More Than One Way To Have Gay Sex

Commentary by sexuality educator Lui Ramirez:
This is a great article. It talks about what “gay sex” can mean but it speaks to anyone whose definition of sex may not include penetration and the struggle that that often comes with.
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I personally define “gay sex” as any sex that is had by people who identify as gay. Lesbian sex is sex had by people who identify as lesbian. Straight sex as any sex had by people who identify as straight.
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The word sex is extremely self-determined, so what does sex mean to you? What are you missing out on? What does it mean when what you “count” as sex is different than what your partner counts as sex? Does your definition invalidate the experiences of queer folks, people who experience things like pelvic pain or IBS, disabled folks, people with chronic pain? How can we better teach and promote sex ed that doesn’t prioritize some people’s pleasure over others’?
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About Lanae St.John

Lanae St. John, DHS, ACS, is board certified sexologist, sexuality coach & educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children. She believes that we must help adults discover a positive outlook on sexuality before they can impart wisdom to the young people in their lives. By teaching parents to nurture the budding sexuality of their children in ways that foster self-respect and acceptance for the totality of their personhood, she helps them raise children who become empowered, beautiful, strong, sexually healthy adults. She often incorporates pop culture, current advertising, music, and movie references into her teachings. Lanae is the proud mother of two daughters with whom she has plenty of practice honing her communication skills and developing techniques to talk about sex that work. She actively embodies her ideas about honesty with sensitivity, empowerment, freedom of expression, and body-positivity with her kids. She blogs about sex, parenting, relationships, and gender at www.themamasutra.net.​
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