The question I can think of to capture how pervasive the de-escalation the author describes here is to ask every woman in your life:
Is this true for you too?
It is for me – even though I’m no longer a 20-something I do probably 80-90% of these things including putting my keys between my knuckles to walk to the car. I recently punched a guy in the back for grabbing my crotch as I walked past him in a crowded event. I even went to security and they couldn’t/wouldn’t throw him out because it was a he said/she said situation. I was livid…and scared he’d do worse for turning him in.
I want better for my daughters but that requires MEN to step up and a) stop doing this themselves if they are and b) step up to “police” their peers. Just like when it took a man to call out Bill Cosby, it’s probably going to take a man to champion this too. People aren’t listening to women like they should.